The bit that bugs me the most is the pleasure and respect issue. Iif you don't think you'll enjoy it, then why do it? So what if he dumps you? If you give it up and he loses respect for you, that's going to happen anyways. It's a lose-lose decision?
The bit that really frosts my ass is the willful deception going on in that community. "Condoms won't protect you and won't stop a pregnancy." A lot of them really do tell their kids that!