Jason Lindquist (jlindquist) wrote,
Jason Lindquist
jlindquist

Friendships and distance and age

Over the last year or two, there have been a few conversations amongst my friends about how things have been changing between all of us, and how they will continue to change in the coming years. A lot of us have gotten married, and several have started having kids. Less and less are we getting together like we used to. I think none of us live together anymore as many of us did in college. We don't gather at the drop of a hat either. We've all picked up new interests (often shared with spouses) and new responsibilities, and there's still the same number of hours in the day. You can't do it all, so something has to go.

Those conversations have always been quite depressing. We all fondly appreciate the time we've spent together. But that's the order of things. My parents had friends, whom I remember from when I was very young, who I don't think they've seen, much less spoken to, in over a decade. There simply hasn't been the time. We went from two kids to four, and as we got older, we took more and more time to keep after. Our activities became more involved, and ran later into the days and weekends.

What brought this to mind was an "American Cinema" episode about Lucas, Spielberg, Coppola, and Scorsese that I ran across flipping channels. Steven Spielberg is quoted, (from memory, I wasn't watching through the TiVo,) "When I got married, the amount of time I spent on the phone talking to George, Francis, and Marty cut in half. Then I went to one, and onto five kids, and now it takes a conscious effort for all of us to reunionize..." And these are four guys with wealth beyond dreams and the standing to write their own ticket.

We have IRC and web presences like LiveJournal that keep us in touch, better than we would otherwise. Even there, some people show up less often and for shorter periods of time than in the past. That trend will certainly continue. I wonder if some day our kids will start popping up on channel. Kids These Days(tm) mostly use the instant messenger services (AIM, ICQ, MSN,) which we all have accounts on. They'll probably use those to check in with mom & dad. But past a certain point in their adolescence, I doubt we'll exclude them from group conversations IRL. (While they're around, as they'll undoubtedly be off with friends as much as we were at that age) We surely wouldn't exclude them from channel conversation either.

It'll be interesting to see how the progress in our social patterns differ from our parents', and how these digital arenas change and mature with us along the way...
Subscribe

  • Aurora reference

    For reference, the only two links I could find on Aurora shooter (and Westview '06 grad) James Holmes, prior to his attendance at Westview being…

  • Your friend, FunnyJunk.com

    If you've never heard of funnyjunk.com, it's run by a content thief. It's a haven for incompetence, stupidity, and douchebaggery. Site owner…

  • X-header crap

    It is ridiculous how big this section of my .muttrc has gotten. Every goddamned special snowflake mailer has to have its own collection of…

  • Post a new comment

    Error

    default userpic

    Your reply will be screened

    Your IP address will be recorded 

    When you submit the form an invisible reCAPTCHA check will be performed.
    You must follow the Privacy Policy and Google Terms of use.
  • 5 comments